Today I am the mom of 3 healthy and happy people. I don't say kids because while they will always be my kids, 2 are living on their own now, ages 26 and 24 and my youngest is almost 16. I can't believe how quickly the years have gone by when I look back.
How did we end up at this point in time today? By trusting God and following his lead, there is no other way to explain it. After surgery, miscarriages and eventually accepting that my body could not make a baby, we pursued adoption. As a very young, very poor, very far from home Air Force couple we contacted many adoption agencies in the Omaha Nebraska area and jumped feet first into the process of adopting our first child. We ended up in an agency that would become like family to us at the time. Our family name was added to the waiting list of folks who would randomly be drawn out of a hat for our home study that year. MANY couples filled out the same forms we did to apply to be studied for placement of an infant through this agency. On January 1st of each year, they would draw out about 6 couples who would begin the program to determine if we were fit to become parents. Not only could my body not make the baby we wanted so badly, now others would decide if we were good enough to be given one! It was a lot to take in, but we were hopeful.
About 10 days into the new year we received a letter in the mail from one of the agencies. I had not heard a thing from anyone at any agency so I figured it was just a form letter saying "thank you but you were not chosen". I carefully slit the top of the envelope open and sat down to read our "better luck next year" pep talk printed on the page. But that was not what was inside this envelope. It was words I still to this day can not believe were being written to us. "Mr. and Mrs. Bankert, we would like to inform you that your names were drawn to begin your home study this year." I blinked back tears and kept on reading, it was news too good to be true. Not only did it say we were chosen, but our names were chosen FIRST!!! We would be the first couple to begin our study this year with the agency. Could we please RSVP to the agency if we were still interested in pursuing adoption with with this agency, and also if we could attend an introductory seminar with the other 5 couples chosen.
Did I read that right? I looked at the envelope a few times to make sure the name and address matched ours. I read the letter again and again before I realized this was news too good to be true but was true and meant for us. I called my husband at work and read it to him. He was just as shocked as I was and also very happy to finally have some good news in the family making business! To us it felt like someone had told me our pregnancy test was positive and we were going to have a baby. I called my parents and got them both on the phone. "We won the lottery!" I remember saying to them. They were confused of course and I explained the letter we got in the mail that day. They were very excited for us of course and had lots of question I could not answer, like "When will you get a baby?" But that did not matter at that time. For us this was the start of our family. Not the way most are started but non the less a very perfect way to start ours.
Christina came home later that year to be ours. She was a 5 month old bundle of red headed peach fuzz with a grin from ear to ear that revealed 2 new teeth. She did not cry once the first 3 days she was with us. She just smiled and accepted us as mom and dad that weekend. Mike and Matt came to us a few years down the road to complete our family of 5 and each of their stories is just as unique and exciting as this very first step God took to begin our family.
Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." has become my life verse. At the time it was not something I knew by heart, but God had written that verse on my heart long before I made it mine by memory. He knew we would be parents in this special way. He had the gift of children already planned for us and I am so very grateful that He did. When I look back over the last 30 years of our married life, I can see God was there many times with us, during good and bad times. No road is made with out a few bumps along the way, but trusting God knows what is best has become my way of traveling. I am so glad that way back then we trusted God's lead and turned down the road to adoption he was placing in front of us.
The daily life of being a mom is not always easy, but anything worth doing is going to take some work. Being a mom and some day a grandma is my life work. God has placed me here to take care of my family and to teach them about unconditional love and support, and to teach others that they too can trust that God has a plan for their lives. We just need to listen and follow that lead. It all began some time ago, but I am so glad that God blessed me in this way. I will continue to thank Him each and every day for my kids, and for the gift of the winning lottery letter way back when....
The daily life of being a mom is not always easy, but anything worth doing is going to take some work. Being a mom and some day a grandma is my life work. God has placed me here to take care of my family and to teach them about unconditional love and support, and to teach others that they too can trust that God has a plan for their lives. We just need to listen and follow that lead. It all began some time ago, but I am so glad that God blessed me in this way. I will continue to thank Him each and every day for my kids, and for the gift of the winning lottery letter way back when....